I sat in my yoga class one night and realised something quite profound and also deeply hurtful. I I had been setting the same simple and what I imagined was loving intention for myself for months but I I realised very quickly as I lay there I was so far from achieving or being it. My intention was to honour, Love and appreciate my body. In this moment of self reflection and internal observation I was able to witness I have not until this moment EVER truly and wholeheartedly loved or honoured or even appreciated my body. Letting this sink in I broke open. I collapsed to tears but with each tear that fell my heart grew more and more open releasing the hurt I had caused myself I came closer to my goal of self love.
I had never practised self love before that moment, not truly anyway. For many of us this is a reality. There is a huge buzz around self love at the moment, what it means, how to do it and why it’s important. Growing up with parents who did not have the time or the patience to love and appreciate themselves means as a society we have no real knowledge of what self love actually feels or looks like. For many generations it was normal for women and men to live out their lives ignoring the calls of their heart, never truly feeling fulfilled, knowing or loving themselves. Taking time for yourself and loving yourself was almost unheard of in most households and doing so would mean you were not doing a good enough job, mentally ill, too soft, wasting time on emotional mumbo jumbo or not achieving enough in the ‘real world’. But the reality is when we look at ourselves and we truly accept and love who we are so much more can be achieved with our time. When we are in a place of total acceptance and self love we can work higher and higher towards our limitless goals. When we accept our potential self worth we accept our potential wealth also. We can not have wealth if we first do not accept we are allowed it.
So it’s time we scrap all that work hard and don’t take more than your share of happiness bullshit and learn to love ourselves and BE HAPPY. Happiness is one of the core purposes of life here on earth, we are emotional beings, think about how easily a cute baby animal can wash away tears and create those warm fuzzy’s in the heart space. We rely on our feelings to basically navigate our way through life and for so long we have been told to put them on hold and ignore them while we go to work, harden up, chin up and don’t take things to heart. Well I say fuck that, be vulnerable, be honest, soften down and let everything touch your heart and let go of it just as it came. Having the ability to be open to our feelings and experiences makes us able to be more flexible and offers us the opportunity to let go and move forward. Society is so hell bent on being strong and fitting the image that we forgot that deep down we all FEEL, all the time. So the more you ignore your feelings the harder it will be for you to feel and move past anything. Another detrimental factor which affects self love is the fact that we have been lied to about our bodies, so much so that most of us don’t even know what we really look like because we are too busy trying to look like anything but ourselves. This is unacceptable! How can we have any self love or respect if we don’t accept what we have to begin with? How can we ever find happiness, love in another or fulfilment in careers if we don’t love ourselves madly and with pure conviction and belief in ourselves? We can’t. So we need to break the rules of work hard or die trying, fake it till you make it and dreams are for when you are sleeping belief systems and create a reality for ourselves where we are heard, understood and appreciated for our perfection.
All of this came flooding to me on day 4 of my new fitness buzz, I’ll be honest I have been trying to stay active and my mantra was always to honour, love and appreciate my body but I hadn’t once stuck to it. And while I was proud of myself for being commited by day four I had not once stopped to tell myself how grateful I am to be so strong, I did not remind myself of how AMAZING I was, how blessed, strong or beautiful I was. Instead I pointed out my flaws to myself, I pushed myself harder and I ignored my subtle changes and simply kept saying you still have so much work to do…. I was setting for myself totally unrealistic and self loathing goals. I was not going to have the body I remembered or the one I have always wanted simply because I was so dissatisfied with what I already had. And why? I have had two children, who are amazing of course, I am not 24 anymore, I have lived a very full and rich life and I love my whiskey and pizza. So instead of accepting my perfection I was secretly putting myself down, for every time I said I love myself out loud another voice was silently shouting at lightning speed you are not good enough, you are not pretty enough, you are too old, too short, too fat, look at yourself, you will never have ‘that’ body. I had let this go on for who knows how long. The crazy thing is is this sort of self sabotage doesn’t stem from a negative experience as a child, from being rejected as a teenager or from some cruel parental teachings, I was quite confident, loved and beautiful as a child and teen, this new wave of negative self talk is a collective problem faced at some point by all men and women. We need to wake up to this tangle of lies and really look at ourselves and LOVE what we are, in our own unique and glorious perfection. Every one of us deserves love and the fulfillment of that desire cannot be reached if we do not love who we are first.
So as I sat there heart breaking open with tears, the memories of the times I had the opportunity to self love and chose sabotage began to flash before my eyes, a slideshow of painful memories but within each memory lay a seed and that seed was of course filled with love. So I began to witness love instead of self sabotage, I began to see how I could truly love myself and really honour this magnificent, miraculous, capable and beautiful body of mine.
It was so simple. Accepting that I am where I need to be at all times, wholly entirely and divinely perfect, I began to see that it was time I loved myself. So I made a vow to myself, from that moment on I was not going to judge my muffin top from eating falafel, my pimples from being hormonal, my cellulite from being a normal woman or my thoughts for running away when I feel insecure, I was going to end the battle with my lack of self worth and LOVE myself for real, I would appreciate where I am at and accept that that is where I need to be, I can always work towards new goals and of course better myself but I have to first accept that everything I have at each moment is PERFECT.
Sounds so easy, and while for the most part it is, it can also be really confronting. This means no more comparisons, no more doubt, no wanting to lose 2-3 kilos, no more wanting to be anything I am not and no more judging. Just pure acceptance and love for myself, honouring and totally appreciating every cell, thought and act my body comes into contact with.
This does come with some boundaries, naturally, this means from now on I set the rules. No more doing things I truly don’t want to do, putting things into my body I don’t feel like having and surrounding myself in people and experiences that enrich and fulfill me at every moment.
I am committed. To be loving, honouring and accepting of who I am, in each moment, past present and future. I am perfect. I am loved and I am so so worthy.
Each of us deserves true unconditional love, our dreams are worthy of being heard and experienced and our true wealth has infinite potential. We are not limited by our 'mistakes', ancestral, past lives or karmic limitations, instead we have the ability to achieve and let go of self doubt and sabotage and be the best version of ourselves at all times. Let's reform the collective and establish a world where our children know what real love feels like and realise they are worth more than their wild imaginations could conjure up or believe.
- Make the choice to wake up each day and remember you are beautiful and so loved
- Count your blessings, no matter how great or small we can't have more until we accept and love what we currently have.
- Do, eat and experience things that are good for you, honour your body.
- Move every day, dance, walk, run, try that new class or just take the stairs,move it or lose it. If you don't keep your body active it will age faster than necessary.
- Do as many things each day that say I love You for yourself, take baths, put on some make up if it makes you feel beautiful, stop for a cup of tea or take a swim in the ocean. Be daring and love yourself first.
- Show those around you how much you care for them too, sometimes we may have our self love in check and be completely oblivious to others suffering around us so make sure you share some of that sparkle and happiness with those who need it most, it will ensure you stay in check too.
Most of all just be where you are, there is nowhere else you need to be.
So much love and blessings
Self love is our dedication here at Sacred Moon Medicine, we hope we have inspired you to check in and LOVE yourself unconditionally. We offer only tools and suggestions for self love, that is our aim, it is up to you to make the choice to love yourself each day and create a strong connection with yourself in order to share your love and gifts with others around you. Thank you for inspiring and moving us to a higher love! We are so grateful for Y O U !!
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